Joel and I have been married 3 months today, and have known each other almost 2 years. One of my favorite aspects of our marriage is that we were friends first. This is something that we have definitely carried through our betrothal and marriage, and I hope it stays that way!
He knows all my secrets. I can talk to him openly and freely about anything, even stuff we don’t agree on. Joel will still listen, and give the best advice that he can. He works hard; he sticks to projects and sees them through.
He takes really, really good care of me. Between making breakfast just about every morning (I’m so thankful he loves to cook!), dealing with “gross jobs”, getting things down for me from high places so I don’t worry about climbing or falling, and taking care of me when I’m sick, you could just possibly say I’m getting spoiled.
And I’m so thankful for his understanding of me – he’s grown up in a home where animals don’t belong in the house. I can see why (to an extent). In all honesty, though I just can’t do it. It’s either animals in the house or none at all. (Except for farm animals, like chickens and stuff.) What has really impressed me with this issue is that since my parents have gotten their new dog (who we all love, we really do!) the cats have to be kept in a separate part of the house until the dog gets used to them. Soooo, Joel has agreed to letting 2 of them come stay with us for a while. Which has made me really, really happy! We are getting a special litterbox hopefully this week, and moving the boys out here, too. Let’s just say that cats are great for my emotional health J I love having the company while Joel is at work, or is busy doing other stuff around the house.
I like that we play games together, too. We don’t ever seem to tire of doing stuff together, even if it’s just reading a book, or watching a movie. Yes, we do enjoy being with other people, but we are pretty attached. I’ve heard that this will fade over the years, but I truly do hope that this isn’t the case with Joel and I. Why can’t we savor every second together, or be happy doing things together? We’ve only waited our whole lives to be together, so why not spend the rest of our lives enjoying each other?
Concerning future pregnancies and labor, I’m very, very, VERY thankful that Joel wants to be a part of all of it J We have read “Husband Coached Childbirth” where, “A husband should be man enough to finish what he starts!” – Dr. Bradley. For anyone who has done research on this method, it is known that the husband helps the wife the entire way through pregnancy and labor. It thrills me that Joel loves me so much and our future kids to want to be a part of everything!
There are a lot of things I enjoy and appreciate about our marriage, but we do have arguments, too. There are two words which Joel and I use frequently in our vocabulary: “I’m sorry.” I didn’t know that two words could hold so much in them. We say those words to each other just about every day. They are important words, right up there with, “I love you.” We’re still learning each other’s quirks and sensitivities. I also find that when one of us has a bad day, the other one usually gets the brunt of the frustration. Thankfully, we’re getting kinda sorta better at asking, “Ok, what’s REALLY wrong?” instead of arguing back and not really knowing why the other person is upset.
A keen aspect of marriage is communication. Joel and I need to work on it, and probably always will. However, I’m thankful for all the “I’m sorry’s”, and all those great, late-night conversations in bed where we’re just talking to talk.
I dearly, truly love my very bestest friend.
He knows all my secrets. I can talk to him openly and freely about anything, even stuff we don’t agree on. Joel will still listen, and give the best advice that he can. He works hard; he sticks to projects and sees them through.
He takes really, really good care of me. Between making breakfast just about every morning (I’m so thankful he loves to cook!), dealing with “gross jobs”, getting things down for me from high places so I don’t worry about climbing or falling, and taking care of me when I’m sick, you could just possibly say I’m getting spoiled.
And I’m so thankful for his understanding of me – he’s grown up in a home where animals don’t belong in the house. I can see why (to an extent). In all honesty, though I just can’t do it. It’s either animals in the house or none at all. (Except for farm animals, like chickens and stuff.) What has really impressed me with this issue is that since my parents have gotten their new dog (who we all love, we really do!) the cats have to be kept in a separate part of the house until the dog gets used to them. Soooo, Joel has agreed to letting 2 of them come stay with us for a while. Which has made me really, really happy! We are getting a special litterbox hopefully this week, and moving the boys out here, too. Let’s just say that cats are great for my emotional health J I love having the company while Joel is at work, or is busy doing other stuff around the house.
I like that we play games together, too. We don’t ever seem to tire of doing stuff together, even if it’s just reading a book, or watching a movie. Yes, we do enjoy being with other people, but we are pretty attached. I’ve heard that this will fade over the years, but I truly do hope that this isn’t the case with Joel and I. Why can’t we savor every second together, or be happy doing things together? We’ve only waited our whole lives to be together, so why not spend the rest of our lives enjoying each other?
Concerning future pregnancies and labor, I’m very, very, VERY thankful that Joel wants to be a part of all of it J We have read “Husband Coached Childbirth” where, “A husband should be man enough to finish what he starts!” – Dr. Bradley. For anyone who has done research on this method, it is known that the husband helps the wife the entire way through pregnancy and labor. It thrills me that Joel loves me so much and our future kids to want to be a part of everything!
There are a lot of things I enjoy and appreciate about our marriage, but we do have arguments, too. There are two words which Joel and I use frequently in our vocabulary: “I’m sorry.” I didn’t know that two words could hold so much in them. We say those words to each other just about every day. They are important words, right up there with, “I love you.” We’re still learning each other’s quirks and sensitivities. I also find that when one of us has a bad day, the other one usually gets the brunt of the frustration. Thankfully, we’re getting kinda sorta better at asking, “Ok, what’s REALLY wrong?” instead of arguing back and not really knowing why the other person is upset.
A keen aspect of marriage is communication. Joel and I need to work on it, and probably always will. However, I’m thankful for all the “I’m sorry’s”, and all those great, late-night conversations in bed where we’re just talking to talk.
I dearly, truly love my very bestest friend.